could it be possible that it doesn't affect you because you arent gay and nobody has a slur that they can use to dehumanize and degrade you? could it be possible that the reason the word "faggot" is associated with being "oversensitive" and "ridiculous" is because those are both pale stereotypes that have been and continue to be attached to gay people? could it possibly be said that you can use a thousand different words that aren't actual slurs against homosexuals instead?
i don't get it. most people understand not to use the n-word casually because it's insanely offensive and calls back to slavery and segregation, but barely anyone bats an eye at a term that originated with throwing gay people directly into fire because they weren't worth tying up on the stake with the witches. we live in a society where its Completely Necessary to start a campaign telling gay teenagers not to kill themselves because It Gets Better and people will eventually stop treating you like shit. we live in a society where a guy can donate to organizations that actively hurt and degrade human beings because of their sexuality or their gender and be Praised for it and people will eat his fucking chicken just to prove they dont care about the well being of gays. all this and its Perfectly Fucking Okay to use a slur to describe people you're mildly annoyed with.
AND THATS ALL I HALF 2 SAY BOUT DAT. faggot out
actually, the n-word has no meaning to me either, but mainly, the actual word itself is just kind of dirty, like, i'd feel like trailer trash if i were to say it, it's just not classy or useful. other variations ("nigga") i actually find sort of upbeat and endearing, but i avoid using it specifically because i know a lot of people who take offense to it (both coming from a white dude and in general), and i want to be respectful to them. but no, no slur has any meaning to me, really. but that's not worth going into because anyone could easily chalk that up to white/hetero/male privilege which i have a million gripes against and it'd just derail too fast.
society does sort of treat gays like shit and that's terrible, and i'll always consider myself pro-gay rights. but i generally just haven't been convinced to cut out the occasional use of those words entirely. maybe i will someday, maybe it is something i'm just not conscious enough about, possibly just because i don't have a lot of gay friends. i think the only member of the LGBT community that i have ever been tight with and stayed tight with was hans van harken, who was always the kind of guy that talked about not letting your sexual preference define your lifestyle, and felt the same way i do about the uselessness of getting offended by those words.
i'm sure if i had more LGBT friends, it'd alter my vocabulary. but until that point, i'm likely going to keep occasionally using those words in the contexts that i explained and just not use them around people that i know become offended by them. whether i ever stop using them altogether will be decided by time.
but just for the record, i don't really use "gay" or "faggot" that much. regardless of how i feel about a word or oversensitivity to words, any word can lose its effect with overuse. which is actually a lot of why i believe words alone shouldn't really offend people, but again, i won't go on a tangent about that.